Relationship Building with a Child that Doesn’t Want a Relationship

In the healing environment, the relationship is the foundation of the house. The reason for this is that it is fundamental when we are dealing with student behavior. Many students come to us with past hurts and pains that have nothing to do with us. They are trying to figure out if we like them. […]

Boundaries Without Using Shame and Anger

Boundaries without Shame and Anger

Setting boundaries is an essential part of establishing healthy relationships, fostering personal growth, and for the development of emotional maturity. However, a common misconception is that boundaries must be enforced through anger, lectures, threats, or shame. Or that setting boundaries around behavior is mean or uncaring. Then after a while, the adult loses their @#$%&! […]

Rewards, Reinforcements and Bribes versus Honest Feedback

Reinforcement has been one of the most difficult parts of our practice, and trying to explain what we have learned and experienced has not been easy due to the ingrained use of systematic reinforcement in schools and society.  Children who don’t trust adults don’t want to be controlled in any way, shape, or form.  We […]