Boundaries Without Using Shame and Anger

Setting boundaries is an essential part of establishing healthy relationships, fostering personal growth, and for the development of emotional maturity. However, a common misconception is that boundaries must be enforced through anger, lectures, threats, or shame. Or that setting boundaries around behavior is mean or uncaring. Then after a while, the adult loses their @#$%&! […]

Rewards, Reinforcements and Bribes versus Honest Feedback

Reinforcement has been one of the most difficult parts of our practice, and trying to explain what we have learned and experienced has not been easy due to the ingrained use of systematic reinforcement in schools and society.  Children who don’t trust adults don’t want to be controlled in any way, shape, or form.  We […]